Love Can Be A Parental Liability!Parental liability You heard it here. Love and good intentions alone, won’t cut it when it comes to raising your children. Parents need to own up to their child’s future and face up to their parental responsibility. This is extremely important when your kids are very young, 3-5 years old. This is when the child is wide open and susceptible to just about anything you put in his impressionable mind. What am I talking about? Parents need wisdom when it comes to their child’s upbringing. You not only need to observe what comes out of your children’s mouths, but you better watch what is coming out of your mouth, this is facing up to parental liability. No, you don’t need a Phd. Degree inorder to raise a child properly; however, gobs of common sense is quite beneficial. It’s often the seemingly innocent innocuous things that are said to your child, that often, do the most harm. This is parental liability. Kids need constant positive reinforcement inorder to build up the necessary self esteem kids will need to handle life when they are adults. On the other hand, you need to be very careful, and here is where the wisdom part comes in, when you apply the necessary discipline needed to raise children. Otherwise, you can have a serious parental liability. A perfect example I have a very good childhood friend which is a perfect example of what this article is about. Let’s call him Dan. I have personally known Dan since we were kids, like about 5 years old. Dan’s parents were very loving and quite wonderful in just about all parental ways. In fact, Dan is the last person you would expect this problem to have risen. From my outside observation, Dan was the apple of his parents eyes. They really loved their son and nurtured him in just about everyway a child could be. Facing up to parental liability.Dan grew up He grew up to be a very fine family man, with a wife and son. My observations, place him as a very successful executive salesperson. He had a lot of drive and ambition. One of his strengths was his personality. He was a very charming dynamic guy. Where is the parental liability? Dan’s problem was that when he was very young, 6-7 years old, he got into trouble with his mother. No big deal really, except the incident eventually determined his entire life. Had this event not occurred, he probably would have ended up a lawyer or doctor, instead of a high performing executive sales person. What happened to Dan? Dan and his mother were chatting in the kitchen one day, while his mother was doing the ironing. The subject of what are we having for super came up. And, one item Dan’s mother mentioned threw Dan into a tantrum. Namely, his mom told him “Green Beans” were going to be on the menu. Dan hated green beans. Lately, green beans made Dan nauseous. He threatened to “throw up” if he had to eat them. His parents told him to eat those beans and quit complaining. Back to the kitchen story. Anyway, when Dan was informed “green beans” where going to be served tonight, he exploded. He told his mother in no uncertain terms, that he wasn’t going to eat those green beans, no matter what! In a matter of fact, Dan threatened his mom, that he would leave home, rather then eat those beams. Dan didn’t feel any trepidation about this statement, because he knew he was the apple of his mother’s eye. At least that’s what he thought! Holy smokes. Guess what happened next? You probably guessed it…his mom called his bluff and told him in no uncertain terms, that he could leave home if he wanted. In fact, she offered to “pack his bags” for him. Needless to say, this scarred the Holy Goodness out of Danny boy. He couldn’t believe what he just heard from his sweet darling dear mother. One thing for sure, Dan had his pride. He wasn’t going to take anything back. At least not until, hopefully, his mother gave him an opening, where he could save face. Man, like it never happened. I kid you not. His mom went into the bedroom, packed his “little bag” and brought it out to him. Dan couldn’t believe what was happening. His mom said, “Ok young man, here is your suitcase.” Dan quickly grabbed his suitcase, bit his tongue inorder to keep from crying, and ran out of the house. Where he was going to go or do, Dan didn’t have a clue. He started walking down the neighborhood sidewalk as fast as he could.(To be continued-see “Parents, don’t become a liability, phase II.)
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