Beat Regret With The Same DNA!

Beat regret because it’s a terrible thing to be carrying around. No human being, worth his salt, should have to bear such a burden. Funny thing about it is…this miserable malady is self-imposed. Yeah, can you believe it?

Let’s face it. Deep down inside, regret satisfies some kind of need. Right? At least that is what the psych books say, right? Maybe it is some form of martyrdom, who knows. I can see how regret may scratch the back of an overdeveloped conscience. Yeah, and maybe it sooths the pains of a demanding perfectionist. I know you have seen the type.

But, what has me puzzled is, I have some very normal friends that are carrying around some regrets. Well, if you must get down to it, I have some regrets. When I catch myself stroking the fires of this regret world, I immediate try to correct my thinking. But nevertheless, I have regrets. I don't like it because it saps the energy out of me.

Smart and common sense people pick up the the mantle of regret, and crown themselves with a big R on their forehead. And here is the tough part, every morning when they walk to the bathroom, and, guess what? Why they look at themselves in the mirror, just checking to be sure, that big “R” for regret is still still displayed.It is understandable why “regret” gets to stay with everyone. First of all, regret is very silent and unobtrusive. You hardly know it is there. I mean, like it fits in with it’s surroundings.How are we going to beat regret? Try being your best friend

In many respects, regret makes an excellent guest. It would be, except for the fact that, most people walking around with regret, are very unhappy. It’s not that they are totally despondent or on the edge of suicide. No. It’s not that. Just about anyone can sense there is a problem. See, you gotta beat regret.

The best way to describe the regretful person is, like he or she is carrying around a very heavy bowling ball. You know, they would love to dump it. Get rid of ball. But normally, these regretful people have been carrying this weight around with them for so long, that it just seems part of their normal daily existence. This is why we need to beat regret.

The problem with regret is, it seems so wasteful. We all know how the price of gas is, right? Well, playing the regret game is about as constructive as placing a brick on the accelerator pedal for one-half hour and just burning up the gasoline and money. It makes about as much sense. Here is a real need to beat regret.

I mean, when you get thru one of these regret sessions, you are usually, exhausted and burnt out. There doesn’t seem to be much energy left for the remaining tasks and challenges waiting for you during the day. Blast out of your rut!

So, my question is, what do we do about it? How do you stop regret from occurring? How do we beat regret? Get a lobotomy? No, I don’t think so. That’s not very practical. If we look at regret objectionably, we can see that regret represents a big festering sore. It has to do with something, for whatever reason, just didn’t go down well with us.

At the time, whatever went down, probably seemed ok with us at the time. But now, those series of events which we are regretful about, don’t just seem right to us. We feel now, that we should have done better. We need to beat regret.

Well, Congratulations to all of my regretful friends! We hit the nail on the head. Just being the “owner” of regret indicates we have “grown” or matured since those early learning days of handling challenges that we faced or screwed up.

If we had not developed our judgment since back then, we would not be walking around with regret. So, let’s give ourselves some credit for something good. ..we have learned and matured. We still need to beat regret.

The old saying, “You got to fight fire with fire”, surely applies to the regret challenge. In another words, if we want to banish regret from our lives, we have to stuff that festering sore with the same DNA that caused the problem.

What do I mean? I am talking about relationship doctoring. If you are regretful about a failed marriage, then make sure you don’t goof up your present relationship by committing same mistakes you made with that failed marriage. Jazz Your Relationship

If you regret the way you treated your spouse, in the early years, then redouble your efforts now, in the manner that you know you should have acted “way back then”. I can give you a personal example of this.

Many years ago, my marriage was going along, not so great. I mean, we were co-existing, and that’s about it. One day I got into martial arts. Before I knew it, I was learning about giving respect to people. Guess what? Soon, Mr. Respect was a member of my home. I began showing respect and courtesy to my wife.

She loved it. Subsequently, she started giving me the respect and courtesy treatment. I thought this was wonderful. I am happy to report that my marriage is now on a very solid ground. Oh, an incidentally, that’s the real reason I obtained my Black Belt. My wife wouldn't let me quit martial arts. I can beat regret.

Some of you regretful people are carrying a heavy burden about the fact that you were not the greatest parents in the world. For whatever the reason was, you just didn’t give your kids enough love, time or attention that you feel you should have. So what do you do? How do you beat regret?

I can think of two things. Number one, try to re-enter your child’s life in a positive manner. If that is impossible, then go to number two. Pick a surrogate. That’s right. Be a mentor, big brother or tutor to some kid who needs and appreciates some help! The kid will love you for it and you will give yourself a pat on the back for doing it.

I grant you this is strong medicine for getting rid of regret, but it is worth it. You will feel like a million bucks and you won’t have that old feeling of inner pain and fatigue. Don’t forget, you are already over 50% of the way towards your cure. Just by the fact that you own some regret, means you have matured and developed to the point, that you realize could have done better. Good luck.

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